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Get Good At Work Bitesize – Why do I work here?!

10/10/2019 By Lee

Get Good At Work Bitesize – Why do I work here?!

We’ve all had days like that at work. I had a lot more until I became my own boss and then I suddenly realised that the buck stopped with me!

I visit loads of different workplaces in my work. I might be in a school one day and then in the NHS and then a firm of solicitors. That is one of the reasons I love what I do. No day is the same. And in all the time I’ve spent in other peoples workplaces as a visiting speaker, I began to realise that most people spend their time at work just getting on with it and are often so busy that they rarely take time out to stop and think why they do what they do. ?It is a privilege to be someone who gets them to stop and think why they work there, why they keep coming back and how they can enjoy work more. “OK, well that’s all very nice Lee” but I know what some of you are thinking – they work for the money stupid!

Well, yes as Zig Ziglar said: “Money isn’t the most important thing in life, but it’s reasonably close to oxygen on the ‘gotta have it’ scale”

But actually, when you look at research into money and motivation at work, you’d be surprised. ??Money only motivates people for a very short time. A pay rise sometimes only motivates people for two weeks and then that’s it! ??Then we kind of forget it, especially if it goes straight into our bank account, and we then become more bothered about working hours and whose buying the milk this week! So if work isn’t all about money, what is it that keeps us there?

Well, it’s lots of things, but often when we really want to perform well and stay motivated in the day-to-day it boils down to knowing our “Why”. Simon Sinek wrote the book and did the Talk “Start with Why” a few years ago and he brought it back into mainstream thinking, but seriously that was nothing new, people have been talking about this for years and when I do a talk I often mention that motivational speakers like me only ever really talk about three things – “The Why” The How” and the “Keeping On Going”. There’s nothing new under the sun as they say. ?

We were designed to work, but we need to know why. In fact, work is good for us. Have you ever been off work ill for few days – the first day is a novelty but then after three days, you start to realise that daytime TV and not being able to go out of the house is not all its cracked up to be! Work helps us to get out of the house and it pushes us into new experiences, both good and not so good.

Little-known tale: The book that chronicles the Death Row All Stars by Howard Kazanijian and Chris Enss

I found a story of a group who found their “why” very quickly!!

In Wyoming State Prison in 1911 they formed a baseball team, nothing remarkable about that, prisoners need occasional exercise. Except that this team was made up of men who were on death row. You see, in 1911 if you were sentenced to death, it would happen within a few months, nothing like the 10 or 20 year wait they have today. So the new warden Felix Alston who was a baseball obsessive decided to set up the Wyoming State Prison All-Star team. And this was the deal:

If the team won they were promised a stay of execution and if they lost, their execution date was to go ahead as normal!Chris Enss in her book, Playing for Time, tells the story of this bizarre set of games in the American West between 1911 and 1912.

Oh yes, that team was very motivated and as they say, they had found their “WHY”! In fact they won 39 games and only lost 6. They were almost invincible, over the 15 months. Not surprising really, they were playing for their lives, literally.

When we really want to perform well and stay motivated in the day-to-day it boils down to knowing our “WHY”. So stop today and think “WHY” do I go to work? WHY do I do what I do? Go on, its good for you! Stop and think WHY.

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Get Good At Presenting Presentation Skills Masterclass Leeds Tuesday 14th January 2020

10/10/2019 By Lee

Get Good® At Presenting – Presentation Skills Masterclass Leeds
Just released, book now – only 15 places available…
https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/get-good-at-presenting-presentation-skills-masterclass-leeds-tickets-76235102243
Get Good® At Presenting – Presentation Skills Masterclass Leeds

Date And Time Tue, 14 January 2020 09:00 – 16:30

Description
Do you need help with your face to face communication?
Do you or your colleagues often feel nervous when presenting?
Are you lost at sea when trying to prepare a talk?
Are you drowning in too much data and death-by-powerpoint?
Want to be more confident pitching for business or within your organisation?

Lee’s course can help you present with more confidence.

He can help you ‘Get Good At Presenting’.

“Lee’s training was informative, interesting and fun – I went away with some great tips.”
The Co-operative Insurance

Based in the excellent conference facilities at Bridge Community Church with FREE on-site secure parking and very close to Leeds city centre too, this is an ideal venue to come and be encouraged to be a better speaker.

Strictly limited to only 15 places you’ll get lots of top tips, some personal coaching from Lee and lots of follow up notes and materials too.

Your host:
Lee Jackson is one of only 25 people in the UK and Ireland who’ve received the Professional Speaking Award of Excellence. He is also the Past President of the Professional Speaking Association in the UK & Ireland, has written the book ‘Get Good At Presenting’, hosts the ‘Get Good at Presenting’ podcast too, and has done this for most of his life – who better to teach you or your colleagues Presentation Skills?

“Brought me out of own comfort zone – a great achievement!”
“The most interactive course I have ever attended – great job!”
“The practical exercises were excellent”
From some previous delegates.

The bottom line is that your presentation skills make a massive difference to you, your workplace, your reputation and your career. Yet people rarely invest time and money developing a crucial skill for today’s leaders.

Today’s leaders have to communicate well, it’s not an option. That’s why Presentation skills training is key.

“Lee…was excellent. Really clear, concise advice and tips about delivering a great presentation (whatever your level of experience) and all delivered with pace and humour.”
Addleshaw Goddard

By the end of the session, you will be able to:
Plan & prepare presentations better
Understand the pitfalls of poorly prepared and delivered presentations
Produce a professional presentation
Deliver upfront with greater personal confidence
Draw up a personal action plan of skills to be practised further
The Presentation skills training sessions content will cover:

Preparation
Keeping the ideas flowing using idea-generating techniques
Researching the presentation’s key points.
Producing a presentation.
Looking at the style & content in relation to the intended audience

Delivery
Basic dos and don’ts
Voice volume, subtleties and body language

Anxiety
Simple and well-researched mindset techniques on calming nerves and building confidence while upfront

Then, of course, follow up and feedback to deliver even better next time.

“Lee got the whole team involved, and we had a cracking time!”
Yorkshire Bank

Approximate timings…

9.00 Coffee

9.30 Start

10.45 Break

12.30 Lunch (provided)

2.30 Break

16.30 End

Free drinks, refreshments and lunch will be served.

Book now to avoid disappointment! Book now to Get Good® At Presenting! 

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/get-good-at-presenting-presentation-skills-masterclass-leeds-tickets-76235102243

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I just got a big award and I was, ironically, speechless…

10/10/2019 By Lee

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Wow.
It was an honour last weekend to become one of only 25 people ever in the UK & Ireland to receive the PSAE (the Professional Speaking Award of Excellence) from my senior peers in the PSA.
I was genuinely speechless, which I guess was, indeed, ironic given the nature of the award!
Me and Richard McCann were sharing a room at the conference and both got the award together representing Yorkshire, which made it even better, as we have worked together many times over the years.
I am so grateful for my friends, colleagues, mentors, clients and supporters on this journey over the last few years.
But reflecting on this, as much as it is lovely to get a big award, that is never my focus, my focus remains not on me as a speaker (because that would be weird!), but on my clients and how I can serve them and make their event go well.
From the PSA website...
"PSAE...is our highest award and is given to Members or Fellows of the PSA who have consistently demonstrated platform excellence and professionalism in addition to making a contribution to the PSA."
So, if you need an award-winning(!) speaker please do get in touch.
(Thanks to Peter Thomas for the photos capturing my joy and surprise too)
The Press release...
Lee Jackson Press release Tuesday, 8 October 2019
Putting Yorkshire on the map for in the UK Speaking Industry
One of Yorkshire’s most experienced motivational speakers and speaking coaches has just won the most prestigious award from the UK’s trade body for professional speakers, the Professional Speaking Association UK (PSA UK & Ireland).
Leeds-based speaker Lee Jackson has received a Professional Speaking Award of Excellence (PSAE) this weekend at the organisation’s annual conference.
Helping others to speak better
The PSA was formed in 2003 and is the professional body – to “speak more for the UK & Ireland Speaking industry. The award of excellence has only been awarded 23 times in its history and currently has over 600 members. It recognises members who have not only succeeded as speakers with excellent platform skills, are ambassadors of the association but have gone the extra mile in supporting other speakers around the UK.
Lee Jackson has over 25 years of experience as a speaker delivering in schools, organisations and businesses. Lee is well known for his Get Good At Work Keynote talk and his Get Good At Presenting Speaking Masterclasses.
His funny, down-to-earth approach to presenting is well received by audiences from in Yorkshire and internationally too. He has been a member of the PSA since 2008 and was the PSA UK & Ireland President in 2017.
A passion for developing people
Lee has a passion for motivating people to be the best they can be, and their mission is grounded in excellent communication skills.
Lee Jackson said, “I’m also honoured to have received the award. It’s a privilege to be able to be able to help others to communicate better and achieve more in life. Being able to present to an audience is a great life skill to develop.”
For anyone wanting to develop as a speaker either to further their careers or even to become professional speakers themselves, they can find more information on the PSA at www.thepsa.co.uk
Further information:
Lee Jackson
0113 2170081
07977039015
www.leejackson.biz
lee@leejackson.biz

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The key to less stress and real success may be simpler but more unfashionable than we realise…

28/06/2019 By Lee

Probably like most of you I watch a bit of TV. Of all the things in life, TV is one of the easiest ways for me to relax. After a day of speaking or training where I’ve often been on my feet all day, working the room, keeping people engaged and happy, it is exhausting. My feet hurt and my brain is tired, emotionally tired as they say. So when I get home or back to my hotel room, an hour or so of ‘mindless’ early evening TV really helps me to reset my brain and move on. My wife Clare has learnt to ignore me for an hour or so I’m sure too. I shut the door in the living room or to my hotel room, put on the ‘mindless’ TV and I enjoy a strong cup of Decaf Yorkshire tea and a snack while I ‘come into land’!

But even though I do find TV helpful at times, there is a growing problem with TV and media these days. It is ingrained into our culture but it can be something that we miss. And that is that TV is more and more about extremes. Extreme situations and extreme people sell programs and it is getting bigger. Look at some of the programs that are really popular. The top programs watched in the first half of 2019 so far are Line of Duty, Britain’s Got Talent, Manhunt, Call the Midwife, Luther, Cleaning Up, Cheat, Death in Paradise, Coronation Street and Vera. What do most of them have in common?

Extremes!

Extreme situations and eccentric people make good TV and clickable news posts. As someone said TV is life with all the boring bits taken out. Now, I’m not saying that we need more boring programs, I mean Gardeners World is there for all to see and we probably had enough of those ‘fly on the wall’ documentaries in the 2000’s to last us a lifetime.

But my point is this. If we always pump out extremes as the norm then we miss one of the best ways to live our lives.

And that is with moderation.

Yeah I know it sounds a bit dull. But I am keen to celebrate moderation. Sure we’d lose such gems as the derivatives of ‘The Jeremy Kyle Show’ and ‘My 600-lb Life’, but we’ll probably survive, I reckon.

So…

Imagine when it came to money, people just spent a bit, saved a bit and gave a bit away?

Imagine if people’s beliefs made them happy, made a difference, but didn’t make them into a noisy bigot or a terrorist?

Imagine if people enjoyed doughnuts, chocolate and takeaways, but were then careful on the other days so they didn’t get really ill?

Imagine if people enjoyed a drink or two but didn’t feel the need to have a skinful and end up in the hospital?

Imagine if people didn’t jump into bad relationships or treated their partners badly, but they were fun sometimes, serious other times and were a little more steady? Everyone likes a bit of romance and the occasional surprise but ‘Steady Eddie’ beats ‘Krazy Keith’ in long-term relationships any day.

Moderation is a lost key to happiness and success.

I study people and why they do what they do. And as the world gets a little crazier and we get exposed more and more to the extremes of life, we need some moderation.

I’m not saying let’s all be boring, I’m just being honest. Oh, and I believe in excellence too, I want to be excellent in what I do and how I live, but I won’t bow down to, or promote perfectionism or extreme behaviour.

Moderation certainly isn’t fashionable, but it might be just what we need right now.

What do you think?

Filed Under: business, education, leadership, motivation, speaking

Free ‘Get Good At Presenting’ Top Tips Sheet

21/05/2019 By Lee

Here is my new free ‘Get Good At Presenting’ Top Tips Sheet. Help yourself and pass it on. All my new LinkedIn contacts will now get this as a no-strings-attached free gift. It even has my cheeky Bad Talk Bingo game too! Enjoy.
PDF Get Good At Presenting Top Tips Sheet by Lee Jackson
#linkedin #marketing #leadershipdevelopment #presenting #speaker #personaldevelopment #enjoy #speaking #leadership #getgood #getgoodatpresenting
Link: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6536558644446674944

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A life-changing rule c/o comedian Sarah Millican

12/02/2019 By Lee

A life-changing rule c/o comedian Sarah Millican.

As you might know, I’m a comedy fan. I watch it online, on TV and live too. I’ve even been on five comedy courses now and I’ve done some standup myself. As a speaker, you’d think that it would be easy for me, right? But actually, standup comedy is very different to being a speaker. One of my mates who’s a pro comedian was joking with me that quite often speakers and preachers chat to him saying “we do the same job really, don’t we?”. I think he probably doesn't say anything, but to be really honest they are very different.

Sarah's publicity shot for her latest tour/DVD 'Control Enthusiast'

Comedy is like speaking on speed and it is often cited as one of the toughest things you can do, well, it’s not brain surgery or bomb defusing, but it is pretty tough. It is scary because, not only are people generally scared of public speaking but add to the mix that for stand-up the audience is sat there expecting that you’ll make them laugh every 10-20 seconds! When I’m speaking I aim for a laugh every 3-5 minutes, so every 20 seconds kinda piles on the pressure!

So, lots of people I’ve trained with are doing it to build their confidence and to push themselves out of their comfort zone. Our comfort zone is great, but we grow when we push ourselves out of it, like getting a new job or trying something new for the first time. As a speaker I just wanted to push myself to be better ‘in the moment, on stage’ and so stand-up comedy and improvisation courses are one of the few places I can go to stretch myself.

Lots of people try comedy, lots of people fail, there is a high drop out rate, almost as high as the drop out rate at the gym on the fourth week of January. So when people really make it in comedy, I like to find out more and learn a bit about their story. Sarah Millican is one of the big names in comedy right now. She has been on a long journey to get there. My friend who runs comedy nights for years said that she had slept on his sofa as she did the local circuit years ago, learning her craft.

Being from the north-east myself I've always liked to watch north-eastern comedians and when Sarah Millican hit the big time I thought she was great. She is cheeky, thoughtful and honest. As I started following her on Twitter I saw some articles on her, and about her: i.e. she does an amazing thing every Christmas helping lonely people by using the hashtag #joinin and people on Twitter support each other at a tough time of year for many. Brilliant.

But one of the things that I discovered about Sarah, could well be the secret to her success. She calls it ‘Millican’s law’. She developed this during long runs on the Edinburgh Fringe where she was doing dozens of comedy gigs back to back.

So, here it is…

If she has had a bad gig, she only allows herself to be mad, moan, wallow and be angry until 11am the next day. Then she draws a line under it and gets on with the next gig. Because if she goes into a new gig thinking she’s terrible then, of course, she’ll probably fail again.

But there is another side to it too…

Even if she nails it, storms it, does well or even gets a standing ovation. She only allows herself to be smug until 11am the next day. Then she draws a line under it and gets on with the next gig. Because, she says that if she goes into a new gig thinking she is God’s gift to comedy, she’ll lose her sharpness and her focus and she’ll probably fail.

She says that this little law, has made a real difference to her. It has helped her move on from life’s up’s and down’s.

But because Sarah is a comedian and they live fairly nocturnal lives, getting home in the early hours and getting up late - then 11am works for them. But for us who have day jobs we need to move that forward to 8am.

So Millican's Law has henceforth become the ‘After Eight’ rule.

Yesterday was yesterday, and whether it was a bad day or a good day, today is a new day, with new opportunities.

Don't live in the past, embrace the present and learn to move on.

Well, at least by 8am, just so we can moan a little but then get our heads straight for when we walk into work!

Let me know how you get on with the ‘After Eight’ rule (not just the chocolate!). It could be a life-changer.

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The moving target of perfection is a killer to your motivation!

31/10/2018 By Lee

Throughout my summer, I always enjoy having a different routine and a bit more space to think, with fewer talks to prep. So, I’ve been thinking and planning about lots of stuff – work, life, and how untidy the loft is. All of this occurred during weeks of holiday/family time/dog sitting, with some sporadic bits of work, both in and out of the loft!

Here’s how some of those thoughts linked together, please do read on, you will find them useful honest!

Joined up thought one: The weather
Like many, I enjoyed the summer warmth, and even though I did have a fan surgically attached to me for a few days – I still enjoyed the break from our normal damp English climate. But then it all changed, the jet stream moved south and all of a sudden our summer was mainly us looking at weather apps and the sky, thinking, should we, shouldn’t we? Then on the 19th August, I had a revelation – it was one that no local weather presenters will like. I now think that they don’t know what’s going to happen more than 2 hours ahead!

We’ve been watching weather apps and we even made decisions to go out or stay in for some summer activities. We even postponed a trip to Malham because the weather looking horrific. But on that day when we stayed at home, it didn’t even rain! Yep, they haven’t got a clue! We can spend ages looking and sometimes obsessing with the weather, the most oddly British of all our quaint pastimes. I can also guarantee that in the next few days the tabloids will report both a very rainy and a very sunny September! They always do.

So as Billy Connolly says “There is no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing”. I for one will be spending less time trying to guess where the moving target of the weather will be this coming year and just go with it…

Joined up thought two: The moving target of happiness
I came across a short video from Nadia Bolz-Weber on Facebook who said:
“Many of us are tormented by our ideal self versus our actual self. Between our ideal income and our actual income. Our ideal personality and our actual personality. Our ideal weight and our actual weight. But here’s the thing. No one has ever become their ideal self. It’s a moving target. It’s this mirage of water in a desert. You spend all your energy trying to get to it—and that just creates more thirst.”

This wonderful quote is a real challenge to us all and particularly to the self-help and self-development industry, that, at its worse can actually make people feel more unhappy with themselves and their lives*. When I’m doing my “motivational talks” (a title that I’ve never been happy with because of its often unreal and fluffy unicorn like connotations!) I always try to research what I say well, not give false hope, but teach the proven down-to-earth stuff that will genuinely help us all to “Get Good”, in both senses.

This quote was a reminder to me to always encourage people to enjoy the journey and in their loud and quieter moments be comfortable in their own skin, knowing that they are enough as they are, but also can develop too. A tricky balance to get right, for sure…

Joined up thought three: A more realistic target we can all hit
And finally I did some research and found lots of target based diagrams useful for helping us to focus on what we can really change, so we can enjoy life and work more. So using the bare bones of an idea from the author Steven Covey and others I have designed my own target to put on your phone or wall.

When I showed it to some friends, some got it straight away and some immediately said: “Why have you put politics and government into the area of no control?!” So to clarify, I am a member of a mainstream political party and I sometimes even do some canvassing at election times. But even so, I know that my obsessing over politics in this country or abroad does not really change those situations. Sure I can vote once in a while, and campaign, but I only have a very limited influence on the government on a daily basis. So I’m not saying do not get involved in politics, but what I am saying is that we should spend more time and energy on our ‘area of control’ and not on what others think about us, the weather, the media, other peoples opinions on social media, our past and the current political climate.

Once we realise that idealism and perfection is a moving target we can never hit, we can learn to focus on what we can really influence and what really matters.

Then we can enjoy work more and focus on enjoying life.

Let me know what you think.

* https://wp.me/p3iDEo-1l9

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New: Get Good At Presenting Podcast

30/10/2018 By Lee

So, after 10 years of Pro Speaking and Presentation coaching Lee has just launched his very own podcast:

“The Get Good At Presenting podcast is the no-nonsense guide to authentic and engaging public speaking with Motivational Speaker and Presentation Coach Lee Jackson. This down-to-earth podcast is ideal for anyone interested in better public speaking, for those who want to speak better or who even speak for a living as Lee does.”

It is a combination of his live talks, some exclusive content, interviews with speakers/experts and questions from the audience/listeners – we hope you’ll find it a lively and refreshing take on speaking up front.

The first 3 episodes are available now on all podcast platforms, wherever you normally listen to your podcasts…

iTunes:
https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/get-good-at-presenting-podcast-with-lee-jackson/id1439480430

Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/0FiTN6imJCwma2zka276aR?si=kzmFi4DZTven8FDY2JCDiQ

Stitcher:
https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/lee-jackson-2/get-good-at-presenting

TuneIn:
https://tunein.com/podcasts/Business–Economics-Podcasts/Get-Good-At-Presenting-Podcast-with-Lee-Jackson-p1163553

Podbean:
https://getgoodatpresenting.podbean.com

Acast:
https://www.acast.com/getgoodatpresenting

Google Play / Android (U.S. Only):
https://playmusic.app.goo.gl/?ibi=com.google.PlayMusic&isi=691797987&ius=googleplaymusic&apn=com.google.android.music&link=https://play.google.com/music/m/Ixo7zs7dzgl633gpbtzx3a7v2eq?t%3DGet_Good_At_Presenting_Podcast_with_Lee_Jackson%26pcampaignid%3DMKT-na-all-co-pr-mu-pod-16

Podcast webpage:
https://leejackson.org/podcast

Enjoy, share and subscribe 🙂

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Forbes says that positive thinking creates more problems than it solves, are they right?

28/08/2018 By Lee

I found this fascinating article on Forbes.com from Jan Bruce…

“One of the most counterproductive pieces of advice spewed from keynotes, gurus, and motivational speakers of every stripe is this: Think positively. Why? It’s not a one-size-fits-all guide to leadership (or life) and adds considerably to your stress load. Because you not only have to tackle the obstacles you’re already facing; you have to also wrestle any negative thoughts you have about them to the ground. (Read more on how optimism can impair your success.)

There is a better and more important way to lead. Because there’s something far more valuable than being simply optimistic, happy, or upbeat—and it’s cultivation of emotional agility . Your ability to be aware of and receptive to all kinds of shifts in thinking and the emotions they create, without getting toppled by them, is what will make you the leader you need to be.

In their recent piece in the Harvard Business Review (“Emotional Agility”), Susan David and Christina Congleton of Evidence Based Psychology, point out that in their experience consulting with business leaders all over the world, they’ve learned that the reason so many of them stumble is not because of the fact that they have negative thoughts (who doesn’t), but because they get snagged on them. To try to “fix” those thoughts, they say, is not the solution.

They write,

“Effective leaders don’t buy into or try to suppress their inner experiences. Instead they approach them in a mindful, values-driven, and productive way—developing what we call emotional agility. In our complex, fast-changing knowledge economy, this ability to manage one’s thoughts and feelings is essential to business success. Numerous studies, from the University of London professor Frank Bond and others, show that emotional agility can help people alleviate stress, reduce errors, become more innovative, and improve job performance.”

Anticipating the Negative Makes You, Well, Negative

In his fantastic book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking, Oliver Burkeman notes that “our constant efforts to eliminate the negative… is what causes us to feel so insecure, anxious, uncertain, or unhappy,” and advocates instead the embrace of a ‘negative’ approach to happiness.

Again, the way to cultivate emotional agility is through being mindful of what’s happening, rather than trying to blind yourself to the bad stuff for fear it will hurt you.

Here’s why this is important: We are generally wired to be on high alert for threats. But think about it. If you are fearful of negative thoughts and feel the need to forcibly expunge them, then you’ll go to great lengths to protect yourself and likely be distracted by them (as you would be if you’re expecting an assassin and see a shadow slip by the window). When you attempt to take on and destroy all those negative thoughts, you’re forever in a defensive pose.

But bad thoughts—and bad events—are like bad weather; they happen. They always will. The answer isn’t to undo that millennia-old wiring; it’s to keep from getting hooked like a fish on every bad line of thinking. (Find out why should see stress as a good thing.)

My advice is very much in alignment with what David and Congleton suggest:

Acknowledge the thought (trap it). When you hear that same old broken-record thought again (“I’ll never make the right decision”; “I don’t do well in situations like this”), rather than follow it down the rabbit hole, trap it: Be aware of the role that the thought is playing, almost as if it were separate from you.
Seek out the source (map it). When’s the last time you heard this thought or felt sucked into this downward spiral? What’s causing it now? When you can identify that as a symptom rather than a flaw, you can keep it from getting you into a stranglehold.
Accept and move on (zap it). Whether you call it acceptance or the negative path or whatever, the key is to recognize that this thought is not who you are. A thought alone can’t doom you to failure.
Let your values, not your thoughts, drive. You need to get bigger than the battle between negative and positive, and the way to do that is by remembering what drives you, what matters most.
We all want to succeed—but the answer is not spending all our time hunting down and killing fears one at a time; it’s to rise above the negative by recognizing that, come good or ill, our values sustain us in a much stronger way than positive thinking ever could.

“Much as we like to hear positive messages about ourselves,” writes Burkeman, “we crave even more strongly the sense of being a coherent, consistent self in the first place.”

The original article is here:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/janbruce/2013/11/19/how-positive-thinking-creates-more-problems-than-it-solves/#425ee556df73

Jan’s other articles are here

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How to Get Good At Presenting – a candid and honest podcast with Presentation Coach and author Lee Jackson c/o ‘Be your best in business’.

28/06/2018 By Lee

How to Get Good At Presenting – a candid and honest podcast with Presentation Coach and author Lee Jackson c/o ‘Be your best in business’.

Original Podcast URL: http://innovatetosuccess.com/project/ep029-how-to-get-good-at-presenting-with-lee-jackson/?v=79cba1185463

Filed Under: business, leadership, Podcast/Interview, powerpoint, presentationskills, slides, speaking, __EVERGREEN

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